“True Hospitality is meeting people where they are”…
While planning weddings is our passion, at Designed by Delsie, producing intentional and iconic inclusive experiences with impact is our purpose.
As a dreamer and visionary, I am naive to believe that together, we have the capacity to bring light to others and change the world for the better, one fabulous wedding at a time.
What we love about events is that it fills the basic human need that we all desire: true and genuine connection in a way that resonates with our inner being.
Our mission is to provide the highest level of luxury to our clients and families in a way that honors their values and beliefs with an over-the-top- extraordinary and authentic approach.
As we honor our couples within the LGBTQ community during Pride month and always, we’d love to share our five favorite tips from our own award winning process on how you can make your own approach more inclusive when planning weddings and events for yourself or within your organization.
Listen. Seek to Understand.
From our initial consultation, it is important that we take the time to get to know each individual client.
We think beyond the “pretty” and ask the intentional questions like how can we cultivate an experience that is meaningful to each couple and their families.
We listen as we seek to understand viewpoints other than our own, and use this information to create a personalized roadmap that will guide our planning direction.
From confirming pronouns, to cultural and social preferences, these small details are essential to developing a bespoke experience.
Representation Matters
At Delsie, we take great pride in showcasing the beauty of our diverse couples.
We strive to partner with vendors , creatives , destinations and venues that align with our mutual philosophy.
A company’s marketing message is a prelude to their internal belief system.
Beyond the artful aesthetic of what is portrayed, ask yourself : do you as a potential planning partner or client identify with their message?
Does it align with your own core beliefs? We encourage you to consider that you are not only investing in the wedding experience, but the people behind the planning and logistics as well.
Seek to partner with organizations and individuals that honor your own internal compass.
Reconsider the Dialogue
Instead of assuming that the couple would like to be referred to as “the bride and groom”, we are sensitive to creating contracts and dialogue with our vendors that incorporate pronouns such as “the couple” or “partner”.
When in conversation, it is also important to not assume that couples will follow tradition, such as one who identifies as a bride to wear a wedding dress.
While navigating the new approach to conversations may be complex at first, we encourage our partners and team to be transparent. The mere act of seeking to learn through these conversations speaks volumes.
When in doubt, treat every person the way that you would like to be treated.
This is the foundation of any meaningful and fruitful partnership.
Rethink Tradition
While there are certainly many tried and true wedding traditions for which we love, a Delsie experience hallmarked by honoring traditions are most sentimental to the couple, even if it means creating a new one that embraces the essence of who they are.
We encourage you to adapt this approach by questioning what really matters to you on your wedding day or the days of the couples you seek to support.
What elements can you not live without?
Twenty years from now, how do you want your wedding experience to be remembered?
What is significant about your own story?
The Perfect Partnership is Paramount
With over a decade of cultivating strategic partnerships with the very best vendors in New England , Miami , and across the country, every year, our planning team interviews over 1500 vendors and selects approximately 250 creatives to partner with us to execute our iconic events. Weddings are a milestone that should be celebrated in a way that is unique to you, therefore, this process of selecting the very best vendors is one that we value and requires strategy and discernment.
When planning your own wedding or partnering with a creative, be sure to ask wedding vendors about their experience with planning celebrations that align with your own preferences and expectations.
Asking for referrals, reviewing online testimonials, and interviewing your existing network of weddings professionals for whom your already trust are all tools to support you within the verification process.
About the Author
Pearl “Delsie” Farquharson is the Owner and Creative Director of Designed by Delsie.
As a destination wedding planner Based in Boston and Miami, Pearl’s trailblazing approach to curate intentional and diverse events, hallmarked by meticulous planning, her company’s core values, and bold, breathtaking design as earned her the title as the #1 Wedding Planner in Boston by Boston Weddings
The Delsie believes the most special of days, there is no room for error nor the ordinary. For your special moment, which will only happen once in a lifetime, we believe that guest experience is everything. Your milestone should be celebrated both intentionally and vibrantly in a way that honors innovation, culture, and tradition.
Our team is as obsessive as you are about the finite details, and we are committed to delivering the most elevated affair in a way that captivates your style, with sophistication and guest experience as the helm of our vision.
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